* disappointments

Disappointments come in sizes from quite small to very huge. Just “quite small” because if they get too little they’re not really disappointments. Very huge because some are crushing.

Sometimes disappointments are totally self-inflicted, sometimes they’re totally due to others. Most of the time it’s some combination of the two. I really hate the self-inflicted part. But I’m quite good at it.

How to recover from disappointments? For me it takes time. And good friends to hear me out–generally it’s their listening more than any advice they give, at least initially. Not that their advice isn’t good, just that I need to be able to talk it out first.

And if every disappointment does have compensation? Then that does help. It just takes awhile. Which is the hard part. Or one of them anyway.